males at home: I am an incapable toddler, I cannot learn how to wash, fold, cook, clean, iron, sweep or organize, I am useless little baby I do not have the brain capability to take care of anything and I also cannot remember to do it and if it’s left to me it will never get done
males at home: I also don’t have the emotional maturity to understand any of your problems, instead I think they’re funny and/or stupid, and I will laugh at them. Also don’t expect me to not explode in rage and throw a tantrum when things aren’t going my way because my way of communication is that of an undeveloped toddler.
males at workplace: I, of the superior intellect and sense, am more capable of this very grown-up responsibility, I am the only one with the rationality and logic, I alone hold the ability to make these important choices without getting swept up with emotions or ‘caring too much’ (which in translation means I will feel no guilt making a call that benefits me and decimates everyone else, because this is the only logical and rational way to live, women are so stupid for caring how their choices effect others if these choices can benefit them! Except of course if they don’t care how it effects me, which is illegal and a crime, actually)
when men are single and lonely it’s declared a male loneliness epidemic, deemed a mental health crisis, and women must address it by fully submitting to men who hate them and want to hurt them.
when women are single and lonely they’re labeled crazy cat ladies and bitter man-hating hags with no worth as people. men are not expected to take any responsibility for the fact that women are scared to date them.
stop calling it the male loneliness epidemic and start calling it what it is: the epidemic of men being undateable porn addicts who don’t view women as human beings and are incapable of acknowledging the very real fears that their female peers have around being in romantic/sexual relationships with them
There’s an internal superficial pushback in every woman every time she realizes she actually doesn’t care about men and their opinions.
This pushback is crafted by patriarchy, where women are taught to be afraid of not caring anymore. From religions threatening women with hellfire for not submitting to males to your local Nigel telling his daughter to do ABC or else she won’t get a husband. Women are taught to fear whatever reality that comes with not giving a shit about men, as if there’s this dim future that exists for women who haven’t cared, their realities are too dim to speak of they tell us.
But when women take a look at the women who haven’t given a shit about men in the past and present , they notice their lives are like 1000 times better than any woman who emotionally labours for men. The woman who doesn’t give a shit is free, and energetic, lives long, healthier, has an actual personality, is powerful, driven, independent, has a sense of Self.
That dim future men speak of is actually their own, when women stop feeding, caring and loving him, he will cease to exist. He might as well be dead. He is useless, and worthless, has no point in living. That hellfire is what lies for him when he has no woman to leech off of anymore. He is death and suffering personified.
So if any woman out there is wondering if not giving a shit about men is the right path,
“men commit violence unless they’re given a purpose, like a wife and family to provide for” okay so why is homicide by boyfriends/husbands the leading cause of death in pregnant women? why do they abandon their families so often? why do they love to beat the shit out of their wives and kids? why do they resort to family annihilation? why do so many men who have picture perfect lives and families still end up committing heinous crimes?
you can’t claim that all men need in order to be happy and non-violent is a loving family to provide for when so many of them will go to fucking insane lengths to get out of providing for that wife and family, and will throw all of it away (or make it all go away using violence) once it becomes a little bit too difficult for them to handle
Everywhere you look, osa women are being sold a narrative: the narrative of a loving, equitable, and mutually respectful heterosexual relationship. Of course, we realize that as we grow that these things are not only incredibly rare and largely unattainable, but that there is little alternative to exist outside of heteronormative hegemony. If you do, you are Othered. You will never find love, at least in the way you imagined, and never outside of the insane patriarchial framework. Yes, you may be happy with how you live, but there are people who will force you into their stereotypes. The spinster. The cat lady. The wine aunt. As much as we _want_ to believe that people can think whatever they want of us and that it doesn’t matter, the fact is that these things actively harm you. These are stereotypes that men will use as excuses to subject you to violence, and that women still buying into the patriarchal ideal will use to ostracize and marginalize you.
We are sold, almost since birth, the idea that, if a man finds us beautiful and virtuous enough, that he will treat us as an equal; we realize later on that this was a ploy so that we can be their pets. We realize, eventually, that cinderella traded her dirty, ashen cage for a gilded one. The question is why, time after time, we seem to fall for this. What is the reason? Even though we’ve learned in some of the most bitter and vile ways, time and time again we reach for the fantasy. The Hallmark movie, the romance novel. There comes a point in every woman’s life; however, when these books stop being expectation and move strictly into the fantasy realm. How unreal, that men would simply _treat us like people._ Why is it, said in such plain language, so damn alarming? And why are we so mired in this expectation? We’ve known, usually from quite a young age, that there are Bad Men, and we’ve heard our mothers warn us about them, turned to our mother for comfort or refuge from them. But we always expect, somehow, a prince charming whose one and only “charming” factor is that he sees our humanity.
Why do we expect any good thing from men at all, when even the “good” ones let us down with exhausting consistency? Why do we expect, after their behavior as a class, that the prince charming archetype is anything but a pipe dream, even for the most beautiful and virtuous among us?
I have a sneaking suspicion that most of it has to do with capital. Who profits off of our preening, especially in a culture where beauty and virtue are (for some godforsaken reasoning) intrinsically linked? The beauty industry is run by men. A sick, disgusting irony that they sell us, in order to make us more “profitable,” most acceptable for the ideals they create. Who profits off of selling us makeup, clothing, cosmetic procedures, and most importantly, who profits off of selling us _prince charming himself?_
People pleasing, letting people interrupt you, taking on “the mental load” in relationships, following up things that you know to be true with “but I’m not sure” or similar self-minimising statements, feeling obligated to smile at strangers, taking up as little space as possible, pretending you don’t have an appetite and never want for anything, never asking for a raise or doing anything else that will put you in a position of having to assert your value.
evidence that ancient paleolithic venus statues were made by women who were examining their own bodies and sculpting them from their own point of view, not, as previously assumed, exaggerated features from an outside perspective
saw someone refer to not knowing how to keep track of your money as “girl math” ……why are we in this weird era of treating women like idiots but repackaging it to sound cute and quirky. We All Need To Stop
at this point i also take issue with those tweets/posts that are of the genre “girls were meant to sit in their bed with treats and do nothing all day” it was fun and #relatable maybe the first few times but it’s really just feeding into this weird mass objectification and dehumanization of women going on all over every social media platform now
*violently sobbing* I KNOW ITS FOR THE BETTER I KNOW ITS FOR THE BETTER KNOW ITS FOR THE BETTER KNOW ITS FOR THE BETTER KNOW ITS FOR THE BETTER KNOW ITS FOR THE BETTER KNOW ITS FOR THE BETTER KNOW ITS FOR THE BETTER KNOW ITS FOR THE BETTER KNOW ITS FOR THE BETTER KNOW ITS FOR THE BETTER KNOW ITS FOR THE BETTER KNOW ITS FOR THE BETTER KNOW ITS FOR THE BETTER
